reflecting.

There comes a time in every parent's life when you sit down with your child and have The Talk. My time was yesterday.

I didn't know it was coming. I thought we were just sitting there, cuddling and watching America's Next Top Model reruns. She asked the question, I offered the answers, and all of a sudden we'd crossed some invisible barrier. Quick and painless.

Changes are coming; I can see them hovering on the horizon. Or, if I'm to be completely honest, when I look at her. I'm not sure I like that. I don't much think she does, either. She's already said, "I don't want to grow up yet."

I don't want her to. I want her to stay childlike and innocent. I want her to stay small and huggable. I don't get that choice and neither does she.

At least she knows she can talk to me, and that I'm not going to BS her with some flowery, beat-around-the-bush answer. At least I know she still trusts me, and that I haven't yet become the enemy.

For now.

(sigh)

Comments

[Anniebananie]

Good job, mom. Can you type up what you told her and send it to me? I'm going to need to have the talk sooner rather than later with HRH, and I have no idea what to say. As we both know, my mom didn't give me the talk until I was 18.

[Cindy in un-Happy Valley]

Look, you'll have your fights, you'll have your disagreements, but if you keep facing the changes honestly without the BS, she'll never stray too far away from your guidance, until she's ready (thanks to your guidance - funny how that works).....probably when she starts contemplating college.

Nice work!

[Jo]

Oddly enough, I think one of the easiest things for me was to have Willow be the age she was when Piper was born. She knew how Piper came along, she knew how Piper came out (!!), and sadly, because she knew about 2 of my miscarriages, she also knew that sometimes these things don't work out.

[Emily]

The one thing I hope for the most is that my girls will always feel like they can talk to me.

Random but not so random question - Has your hubby always kept his genitals completely hidden from HSH? Mine would never allow the girls to be able to see him naked, even when they were really little.

[lara j.]

Awww. It happens so quickly- too soon. Fidget asks about certain things on sale at the grocery store but for now I'm evading the questions with an offhand we'll talk about it later ploy. It will be nice to have that talk behind me but like you I don't look forward to it. This is my one chance to have a little girl. I want to keep her that way as long as possible. :)